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Whose Permission Do You Need?

Written by Kate • May 15, 2012 •
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Each of have much to learn from those around us. Some of it is in the form of cautionary tales, some of it is in the form of how to do things exactly right.  I am fortunate enough to be partnered with someone who has set his sights on what he wants to achieve and is going for it, with every thing he has.  After 8 years together, he has shown me so much of what real success takes. Below are some of the most important lessons I’ve learned of late about the best ways to live a life and how to achieve true success.

Enjoy What You Do

To some this may be screamingly obvious and for those for whom it is, please continue on to the next lessons. But for those who don’t know what they like to do or for those are doing a lot of things they don’t like to do, trust me. This is an important one to work your way back to doing all the time.  Enjoy What You Do.

Joy in what you do is the most fundamental of ingredients. It makes you want to wake up at 5am and write a post, just to share your thoughts. It’s what helps you on a Saturday afternoon when your friends are have a few beers to help pass the time and you need to focus in order to learn about some new idea or draft up your own thoughts.  If you think your will is enough to sustain year in and year out doing something that doesn’t feed your soul, you will find out after years of toil that you’re wrong. Doing something for years on end that you don’t enjoy ends up numbing you and making it increasingly hard to find the joy.

You can see on the face of every truly successful person how much they love what they’re doing. Money, fame may mean you’re rich and famous but if you’re not happy, the money and the fame both won’t last and won’t be meaningful. True success may include money and fame but joy is at its true foundation.

Do What It Takes But Rest When Necessary

Inspiration, creativity, and all the other underlying requirements for success and a life well lived don’t obey a 9 to 5 world and can come at any time. Sometimes a great idea will come to you just as you’re heading for bed or about to hit the shower to get ready to head into work in order to be on time. Don’t ignore creativity when it strikes. Follow the inspiration no matter when it strikes.

And sometimes, even when you sit down to do what you’d planned to do, inspiration may be not call at just that time. Instead you may feel the need for a nap. Resting is just as important as working and should also not be ignored.

Be Excellent All The Time

Note that this isn’t about perfection. Perfection is both not possible as well as the enemy of getting it done. By trying to be perfect, you’re already on the road to failure. But be excellent all the time. By doing what you love and following inspiration where it takes you- and not worrying about perfection, achieving excellence is a lot easier than it may sound.

That means knowing you’re giving it your all, even when you don’t feel like it. It means giving it your all even when you’re tired, even when 70% feels like it should be good enough. Excellence, once you’re accustomed to be in the flow of what you’re doing, what feels good, becomes a habit that feeds itself.

The Only Opinion That Matters Is Yours

This lesson may be the most crucial. If you worry about what other people think, it’s hard to strike out on your own, to do what it takes which is often counter to what your family and friends expect of you. If this is particularly hard for you, think of a mantra to repeat to yourself until you’re free of your need to have other’s approval. Here are some to consider. Blaze your path. Let your freak flag fly. Withdraw your consent that what anyone else thinks matters. What other people think of you isn’t any of your business.

The thing about what other people think- it’s that no one likes change and no one likes change in which a loss may occur.  But if you’ve started engaging in new behavior that your friends and family complain or push back about and yet you keep at it for some amount of time, if you keep doing it, then that behavior becomes the new normal and the resistance from others just melts away. Don’t let the idea of being potentially different or be thought weird stop you from doing that which you’re meant to, that which makes you happy.  If you think you’re doing the right thing, that’s the only opinion that matters.

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